It's making my crazy!!!!! And yes, the bf and I have talked about this and yes and promised that soon....but it's not happening. I really don't want to nag him because it gets him annoyed, but I'm becoming really impatient. I have even set a silent deadline for him. If he doesn't propose to me by my set date, I will end the relationship and sell the house. That's the plan anyway, I don't know if I would actually have the nerve to go through it.
I'm a spoiled brat and I'm difficult and I hate this because I'm not getting what I want, when I want.
I really want him to do it on his own time, but I want it to happen soon. GRRRRRR
This isn't making any sense, and I'm sorry for rambling. Thanks for reading!
I've been there...it will happen if it's meant to be. That sounds cliche, but it's true.
ETA: my husband said he was waiting for just the right time. I bet that's what's going on. Also remember it's a tougher thing for men -- they aren't conditioned toward marriage the way women are. It has nothing to do with not wanting to be with you...they just have to prepare themselves for a major life change.
-- Edited by halleybird at 23:02, 2005-02-17
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Well Anna - if this is the guy for you - and you have talked about it before - and it is coming - my advice would be to drop the deadline.
I also wanted to get engaged soooooooo badly -and we spoke about it - but he never knew HOW badly I wanted it.
One friday I was on the way to his apt. and I was on the phone with my friend Nanci - she said, so what are you doing this weekend? and I said "I'll tell you what I am not doing - I am not getting engaged - I'm NEEEEEEEVER getting engaged"
Surprise!! I was engaged 2 hours later!!!! So you never know when it might happen - hopefully it will catch you by surprise!!!
I know that the deadline is not a good idea and completely unrealistic (I will never be able to leave him...that sounds really co-dependent). It's just the only thing allowing me to have SOME control over this, as crazy as that sounds. Thanks for the kind words, I'm glad that I am not the only one who has ever felt like this. I swear, sometimes I get angry at him because of this. It's totally stupid, but I can't help it.
And Jen, I totally feel like I am NEEEEEEEVER gettting engaged!
how funny because i have the opposite problem. My guy wants to get engaged and i don't. I did give in and go ring shopping which has shut him up because of the price tag...
HAHAHA, so does that mean that he got it out of his system for a while? You guys are young though, you have tons of time. I'm turning 29 in two months, so you can imagine where my psychosis is coming from!
You would think the freaking price tag would have dampened his spirits some but he's still all into the getting engaged. Luckily I haven't done his taxes yet so that's 1500 he doesn't have for it...
