First, I want to say that this is not about me. This is someone I know, but I won't say anymore.
So, there is this girl, let's call her M and this boy, let's call him T. They're dating for a few months. They've known each other for a few years, so this is not something totally new.
T has this thing, that he constantly checks out other girls. Not just glances at them, checks them out. Up and down kind of leering thing.
M, hasn't said anything about that. I'm guessing she hasn't noticed because she's happy to be in a relationship.
If you were M, would you want to be told about T's behaviour? What do you think of the T behaviour? Is it bad, horrible, or okay? Is it worth breaking up over? Does it mean that he's not that really into her?
Hmmm... I think I would want to know so I could notice for myself and make up my own opinion. Checking girls out is one thing, but leering? That would be bad. I don't think it's a horrible thing, but then again I'm married and totally comfortable in my relationship. Hell, half the time I'm pointing out chicks to my husband! BUT, I might not be so willing to do so if he were to stare at them and totally check them out, you know? So, yes, I would tell her. That way she can decide for herself if it bothers her or not. Depending on the guy, it might not neccessarily mean that he's not that into her - he could just really dig women. BUT at the same time, he should be respectful of his girlfriend. There's enough time in the day if he needs a chick fix for him to check out a Playboy now and then, you know?
Lindsay - that's basically how I feel, I just wanted to get other input. That said, how do I tell her? I was actually planning on calling him out on it, in a playful way, when we are all out together. I don't know if that's the best idea, but I'm not sure how she will react when I tell her. I don't want her to think that I am attacking her and her boy.
I think it depends on your relationship with them. If you've had ANY angst towards this boy in the past or the girl thinks you just don't like him or anything, it will be a lot harder. But if you've been supportive and they're both friends of yours, etc. I think you can totally call him on it. HOWEVER, it might embarass HER or make her feel dumb instead of embarassing him if you call him on it in public. Can you maybe just say to her "Have you ever noticed T doing this?" and ask her if it bothers her. I think once you put it out there you'll see pretty quickly how she feels about it or if she's been oblivious the whole time.
I don't have a relationship with him, I've only met him a few times. With her, I have always been able to tell her the truth about everything, but for some reason I'm having doubts now. I have a feeling that she's really hoping this works out (marriage) and I don't know how she will take this.
Is it even worth mentioning? I mean, how can she NOT notice! It's so obvious!!!
